I’m willing to bet that in your first months of dating you didn’t go too in depth when it came to having conversations with your partner. Small talk and chit chat were probably more comfortable. Assuming that you’ve been together for awhile and know each other quite a bit more, it’s important to take the small talk up a notch. Read on to see how the happiest couples engage in conversation to keep their relationships real.
Talking about your day at work, little things that happened throughout the day, and what’s going on with the weather are all acceptable subjects to broach, but after you’ve cleared some of that away, you can get down to more meaningful conversations.
Did you know that the happiest couples can talk deeply about things like education, politics, religion, and philosophy? Granted, some of these conversations can get heated, but the point is that deeper conversations about larger topics are a great way to get to know your partner more and to connect with him or her.
Are you ready to dig in and get talking? Grab your partner and check these 8 things the happiest couples always talk about off your list. You can thank us later.
1. The Relationship
Even if it seems like everything is flowing smoothly, it’s important to check in with your partner and find out where he or she stands in the relationship. Ask him how he’s feeling overall, if there’s anything that bothers him or that he needs to get off his chest. This kind of check in is like a routine maintenance check on your car; it helps to prevent mole hills from becoming mountains later down the road.
2. Hopes and Dreams
Another thing happy couples talk about is each others dreams. No, I’m not talking about the one you had last night (although that can make for an interesting conversation as well). I’m referring to the goals and dreams you and your partner have and want to achieve, whether big or small. Maybe you significant other wants to start a bakery or you want to travel the world. Whatever the case, talk about it, dream together, and find ways to support each other on the path to success.
What are your fears? What are your partner’s insecurities? You’ll never know unless you talk about it! And it’s important to talk about these kinds of issues so that you and your partner can better understand each other. Plus, talking it out with someone you love can help alleviate your worries.
One thing that can ruin a relationship fast is money problems. Sure, couples fight about money now and then, but if you have frequent, open discussions about earning it, spending it, etc. you’ll lower stress and avoid later tragedies. Because money is such a huge thing in everyone’s life, it’s important to know the ins and outs of your bank account.
“Let’s talk about sex, baby, let’s talk about you and me, let’s talk about sex.” Remember that 90’s song? Even if you don’t, it’s chorus has some good words to live by. When it comes to discussing things with your partner that will lead to long lasting happiness, put the sex topic on your list.
Couples don’t always speak up about what they really enjoy in bed, whether it’s because they are embarrassed, don’t feel it’s necessary, or some other reason. But it’s totally necessary! The happiest couples, couples,however, discuss what it is they need and want, whether it’s more, less, different, or what have you. Not discussing these things can lead to frustration in and out of the bedroom. So speak up!
This one can be tricky, especially if you’re not on the same page, so it’s important to go into political conversations with an open heart and mind. You don’t have to agree with your partner to have a good conversation. You just have to respect him or her, and vice versa.
So why do the happiest couples talk politics? It helps them understand where the other person is coming from. And who knows – by being open about political matters, you each might begin to see things from a different angle.
Everyone loves a good trip down memory lane. Even walking down the darker memory paths can be therapeutic. With this topic you can talk about memories you’ve created together or ones from childhood. As humans, our past is what makes us who we are, so it’s only natural to be curious about one another’s “molding,” so to speak.
8. Religion/Spiritual Matters
Like politics, religion and spiritual discussions should be broached with respect and openness. Again, you don’t have to agree with your partner and vice versa, you just have to be willing to listen. Don’t be afraid to ask questions to learn more about why your partner thinks/feel the way he or she does. And if you’re on the same page about things, dig deeper. Listening with an open heart and mind and respecting one another’s beliefs will lead to a much happier relationship.